Monday, July 13, 2009

Getting Personal

I'm sure most of you have heard of this book turned movie:

It was a great movie. Really, it was, but I absolutely HATE the concept of this book. In case you're not familiar with it, it's basically about how guys show all these signs that they're not into you so you're supposed to recognize these signs and move on quickly to the next guy. Here's how my hatred of this book began. Back in the day, about 4 years ago, Jake and I went through a rough patch. Ok, "patch" is an understatement, it was like a year. We were juniors in college so I chalk most of this up to just being young and not really ready for a serious relationship. During the course of the year I had numerous friends try to get me to read this book. Actually, even JAKE told me to read this book...not very subtle, huh? I don't think that I ever read the entire thing, but I did read parts of it. I can definitely see where some people would benefit from the advice given in this book, and I might have benefited too, but I chose to not listen. And obviously that worked in my favor. I told numerous friends "You don't understand, we're meant to be together. I KNOW we're going to get married one day." They all basically replied with the same advice/insight that the book provides. Don't get me wrong, I know they were trying to help and they only wanted me to be happy, but here's my piece of advice for those trying to help a friend. DON'T GIVE THEM ADVICE. Let's them rant, let them cry, but then you must AGREE WITH EVERYTHING THEY SAY. Every relationship is different so nobody can know exactly what the couple is going through. Just be a good friend and listen. Let them talk it out so THEY can figure out what they need to do. That's all for now. But to the person for whom this post was written: I love you and I'm here to listen if you need me.

1 comment:

coffeegrounded said...

There is nothing better than a best friend. They allow you to rant until the cows come home, call you when they are fast asleep at 2:00 a.m., and when you are sure that all hope is gone, they turn the lock on your door and sit with you through your darkest hour.